Could Amy Winehouse Have Been Saved?

It's now been over a week since British pop singer Amy Winehouse was found dead in her North London apartment at the young age of 27. She was a troubled diva whose troubles with alcoholism and drug addiction were documented as they happened for all the world to see, and her very public self-destruction had fans, friends and family worried she would die of an overdose. While her death was not unexpected given her lifestyle and addictions, it still shocked the world when the the news services picked it up. The terrorist killings in Oslo, Norway by admitted killer Anders Breivik stole most of the thunder from Amy's death that day and may have kept it from being an even bigger news item.

There has been the chatter on social media, the cable news channels and gossip shows about Amy joining the so-called "27 club" of other entertainers who died at that age like Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin and Kurt Cobain; her troubled personal life fueling the raw passion in her singing and songwriting; how she made it to the top and lived the way she wanted without apology as a true rock-and-roll rebel; and how another tough streetwise angel is shaking up the stoic clouds of heaven with her arrival.

But after all the emotionalism subsided, there remained one gnawing question: could Amy Winehouse have been saved from such a self-destructive and ultimately fatal cycle?

As of this posting (August 2), authorities in London have not released the toxicology reports on Amy's body to determine if there were any drugs in her system at the time of her death. However, there seems to be a general consensus she died of a fatal overdose. That being said, couldn't anyone have stepped in to save her life when it was obvious to everyone it was nosediving?

I guess we have all been accustomed to expect a dramatic rescue like on TV's "Intervention" where loved ones and a doctor confront the addict, who then enters treatment and comes out clean and sober and lives happily ever after without a relapse. Or maybe like Dr. Laura, we self-righteously judge the addict as a weakling who needs to snap out of it, grow up and "just stop doing it", insisting like she does that there is no such thing as addiction. Or, like the Prodigal Son, we think they will come to their senses on their own, see the error of their ways, quit cold turkey and regain their life.

But the sad truth is that giving up an addiction is never that clear-cut and dry. If the addict doesn't want to stop, all the interventions, threats and consequences in the world won't stop him or her from continuing their downward spiral. The same person that chose to drink, drug or act out must be the same person that decides they've had enough of it and seek help. That may sound cruel and uncaring, but just watch any episode of "Intervention" and see how strong denial and rationalization can be for the addict who just won't quit.

Amy's signature song "Rehab", which until her death was seen as dark humored and ironic, encapsulates her personal life so much it's not funny at all anymore. Her family and manager put her into drug rehab numerous times but she always bailed out early. She rationalized that she didn't have a problem but rather the booze and drugs helped her cope with life. She seemed to enjoy all the attention she was getting from her troubles. She stubbornly refused to get help, and the reasons why died with her.

As a member of a family with generations of alcoholics in its past, I've seen that people turn to the bottle because there is a pain or emptiness in their life, and the effects of alcohol are a quick way to escape all those bad feelings. They want all the bad stuff to go far away, but they really don't know how to deal with that pain in a constructive way and the quick fix alcohol provides is very attractive. That pain is essentially the deep longing in our souls for a deep connection with something or someone greater than ourselves. It's often been called "the God-shaped hole in our heart" that only God Himself can fill.

Programs like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous that use what are known as the Twelve Steps to recovery have many success stories of members with years of sobriety because the steps teach very clearly that they are powerless over their addiction (Step 1), must come to believe a Power greater than themselves can restore them to sanity (Step 2), and must decide to turn their lives over to that Power, who is also called God (Step 3). Though not a religious program, many members have come to faith in Jesus Christ because AA literature is full of biblical references that even atheists can't avoid and Christians in AA discover the amazing grace of God and His love for them.
So essentially it's a spiritual problem that leads many people to addiction. If an addict won't admit to that problem, they won't recover. From all that I've seen, it looks like Amy Winehouse stubbornly refused to see that angle. But what can the rest of us learn from this tragedy?

Whether we want to admit it or not, each and every one of us has that God-shaped hole in our hearts that only God can fill because God Himself made us that way. He has planted eternity in our hearts (Ecclessiastes 3:11), but we do everything we can to suppress what He planted (Romans 1:18-21a) and go our own way. And when we go it alone, we want everything taken care of our way, on time and on demand. And then when we experience the consequences of our actions, we want somebody to bail us out or even blame God for not stopping us. "Self-centered in the extreme" is what Alcoholics Anomymous' self-titled book calls the plight of the addict disconnected from God.

But when we finally have conceded defeat, when we are sick and tired of being sick and tired, and begin to turn God for help, we find that he has been there with extended hand all along, waiting patiently for us to reach out. And when we grab His almighty hand and turn ourselves to Him to save us, He does for us what we can't do for ourselves. This sounds a lot like the familiar Lutheran theme of Law and Gospel, where we see our sinfulness and lost state apart from God and then see our Savior, Jesus, and what He did for us on the cross so that we wouldn't stay lost and cut off from God.

One doesn't have to be an alcoholic or junkie to realize they can't make it alone and that they need God. If you haven't done so already, why don't you reach out and grab His extended hand today?